Let’s Talk Disney

Hey there, hi there, hello there! My life has recently gone 0 to 100 real fast and I *finally* have time to catch you all up on my magical journey. Take a seat, grab some popcorn, and relax because this is going to be a long one!

So the past two weeks, friends and family have been bombarding me with questions of how everything is going down here in Florida with my new job. For those of you who are out of the loop, I just started working for the mouse here at the Walt Disney World Resort. I am a merchandise cast member in Magic Kingdom in Adventureland and Liberty Square, and I basically get paid to have fun. But there’s a little more to it than just that, so let’s talk Disney.

Friday, August 4th: It was the day I have been waiting for since I left Orlando, aka the day I returned to this beautiful land of sunshine. My mom and I landed in MCO bright and early Friday morning and I immediately re-acclimated myself to this wild but wonderful climate. We moved all of my boxes of semi-useless stuff out of my storage unit and prepared for my upcoming check in day. But of course we had to squeeze in some Disney in my first day back in Orlando, so we headed to Disney Springs to eat in a giant pineapple, aka Bongo’s Cuban Grill.

Saturday, August 5th: Day two hit hard as we became tourists for a little while. We headed over to the Orlando Eye to visit Madame Tussaud’s Wax Museum and surrounding gimmicky shops. That evening we went shopping (again) at the Orlando Premium Outlets located nearby my future apartments before getting rained out.

Sunday, August 6th: My last day with my mom before check in day I wanted to show her all my favorite less talked about spots of Orlando. In the afternoon, we headed to Downtown Orlando in the Lake Eola area and were surprised with their weekly farmers market set up in full swing. We walked around the lake and checked out all the booths set up. The City Beautiful never ceases to amaze me. After that, we went to Winter Park (to shop some more) and eat dinner before heading back to our hotel to prepare for my big move.

Watch my first Pre-Check in Adventures here!

Monday, August 7th: Okay this is where life gets exciting. Monday was my check-in day for the Disney College Program. After eating breakfast with my future roommate, we headed over to our housing complex so I could start my adventure. I headed to the clubhouse where I was handed a program guide, as well as got my photo taken for my housing ID. I then got my key and found my apartment. While we were blessed with the lofted ceilings of the third floor, It wasn’t too fun to move into at noon on a ninety degree day. Especially when an uninvited visitor, Mr. Cockroach, decided he want to help us unpack. After loosing my mind at least seven times throughout the move-in process, I headed to what Disney calls “Casting” for fill out I-9 documents, get fingerprinted, and all that fun stuff. It was a pretty mellow afternoon after that. We finished unpacking and decorating our rooms and then exchanged roommate gifts that we made for each other. I am living with a total of six girls so I’m super grateful for a spacious apartment (despite the fact that I have to share a bathroom with 4 of them)

Tuesday, August 8th: Another uneventful day, because until we go through training, we don’t have access to the parks. On this day I did all of my grocery shopping as well as purchased a super ugly pair of shoes for work (only to find out I need to buy another pair in addition). It was a very laid back day and then that evening, a few of us headed to Disney Springs to compete (and embarrass ourselves) in a dance battle.

Watch my first two days of my program here!

Wednesday, August 9th: Okay Wednesday was super cool because I was able to experience my first ever character dining experience. Two roommates and I went to Tratoria al Forno at Disney’s Boardwalk Resort and were able to dine and hang out with Rapunzel, Ariel, Prince Eric, and Flynn Rider for breakfast. It was my first dose of Disney magic sine coming here and was one of the coolest experiences I’ve had. The characters were so friendly and some that you can’t normally meet in the parks. After that I decided I needed to go to the parks, and since I have an annual pass, I headed over to ride The Great Movie Ride for one of the last times. I went by myself, but honestly it’s really peaceful to hang out at the parks alone. After that I walked over to Epcot to meet Becky and we rode Ellen’s Universe of Energy one last time. Because that didn’t take too long, we spontaneously decided to go to Pandora, the World of Avatar at Disney’s Hollywood Studios, so I could experience it for the first time. It was incredible and I don’t want to spoil too much for you, but Flight of Passage, their new ride, was absolutely insane and worth the two and a half hour wait with a dead cell phone, and I don’t really say that about much.

Watch my character experience and park hopping here!

Thursday, August 10th: On Thursday, all of my roommates and I were off, so we decided to explore around some of the resorts and try out the infamous kitchen sink. We started at the monorail resorts aka the Polynesian Village Resort, The Grand Floridian, and the Contemporary. While at the Poly, we enjoyed dole whips before the heat melted them and hung out on the beach. After heading over to the Grand Floridian, we stopped in the Disney Wedding Pavilion and it was the most beautiful thing in the world, probably. We then headed over to the Boardwalk and the Beach Club to devour the kitchen sink. If you haven’t heard about the kitchen sink, it’s 8 scoops of ice cream, every topping they have (except peanuts bc ya girl’s allergic), and a WHOLE CAN of whipped cream. News flash, we didn’t defeat it. That night we headed to our first welcome event and hung out with hundreds of other kids that arrived this week as well and it was a ton of fun!

Watch our resort hopping experience here!

Friday, August 11th: The day I officially became a cast member for the Walt Disney World Company. Friday was my first day of work called Traditions. Traditions is the orientation that all cast member go through that explains the heritage and traditions of the Walt Disney Company and how that have become as large of a company they are today. It was really incredible to see that side of the magic and was something I’ve been waiting to experience for years. Mickey hand delivered my name tag to me and everything became real. During Traditions we were taken into Magic Kingdom so I got to see the castle for the first time as a cast member! After a magical morning, I met Emily at the Kona Cafe in the Polynesian for dinner! It was my first time seeing her all summer so we caught up and watched the fireworks and I got to show off my super cool apartment to her!

Saturday, August 12th: I slept and slept and slept and then decided I needed to get my butt over to Hollywood Studios to ride Great Movie Ride one last time. After saying my sad goodbye, we headed over to Magic Kingdom to watch Happily Ever After for my *official* first time and it was magical as heck but mostly because a couple in front of us got ENGAGED during “You’ll Be In My Heart” and it was crazy wonderful.

Watch my Welcome Event, Traditions, and Happily Ever vlog here!

Sunday, August 13th: Sunday was my first day of training! I had Welcome to Operations where we learned about all the safety procedures behind our guest service. Following that I had Welcome to Merchandise which offered more in depth information for my role. It wasn’t the most exciting day because it was all classroom training, but I got paid to sit in the AC for 6 hours and listen to Disney music, so I’m not complaining.

Monday, August 14th: This was such an exciting day. Monday was my first day of on the job training, which meant I actually got to go to Magic Kingdom for work! We met at MK Costuming which, which is a huge warehouse full of all the costumes for cast member for the whole park. It was super overwhelming, but also extremely cool to see all the outfits hung up in lines. My location is actually made up of seven different shops and stands, so I have a total of six costumes. Trying them on took absolutely forever, two hours to be exact, but I finally found all my sizes, and am so excited to transform into different characters everyday at work. After that we took a tour of all of our locations, and I even got my pirate name! (Sarah Treasurehound, for those who care)My locations are Ye Olde Christmas Shoppe, Memento Mori’s, Pirate’s Bazaar, Agrabah Bazaar, Bwana Bob’s, Glow Carts, and Squeeze Breeze carts! I also have the opportunity to work Halloween parties and Christmas parties, which I have never attended before! The first one is this coming Friday, and I will be working at Memento Mori’s (the Haunted Mansion gift shop), and I could not think of a better place to work that shift!

Tuesday, August 15th: On Tuesday I had my second day of classroom training, Welcome to Merchantainment, where we trained on the registers. Merchantainment is a combination of merchandise and entertainment because no matter what role we play, we are all entertainers. I learned that I will have four different personas to play depending on my location and my introverted self is a little bit nervous about acting, yet I’m hoping it will open me up and prepare me for a dream role in guest relations! After class I walked over to Magic Kingdom, where I met Emily, Nicole, and Becky to play for a few hours before our dinner reservation at Hoop de Doo Revue. Hoop de Doo is a dinner show at Fort Wilderness that was insanely fun. What could be better than all you can eat mashed potatoes? After that I met some new friends at Hollywood Studios to watch Fantasmic before heading home to crash.

Vlog coming soon!

Wednesday, August 16th: My day off! Casey, my roommate, and I both had the day off, so we went to Typhoon Lagoon for the morning. It was both of our first times there, so we had so much fun exploring the park. It was a beautiful and extremely hot, so I was so glad we had a giant water park at our disposal. I also checked out some of the merchandise shops there and decided I definitely want to pick up shifts there in the future!

Vlog coming soon!

Thursday, August 17th: Today was another day full of magic! It was another training day, but this one was a complete walking tour of Magic Kingdom. We came up into the park before it even opened, and were able to experience it before it was full of guests. We spent four hours walking around all the lands, learning fun facts and important information to tell the guests if they have questions. We even were able to ride Haunted Mansion, and get paid for it too!

And now we are finally (kinda) caught up. After this weekend off, my schedule will be picking up a ton, but I’m excited to begin working in all my locations and trying all my new costumes (pictures to follow). My first non-training shift is Monday and I’m super nervous, but also really excited! I’ll continue to keep up with my vlogs and my blogs and all the social medias!

Thanks for following along!



Being the “Extra” Friend

Originally posted on April 12th, 2017 on Her Campus UCF.

“You’re so extra!” Extra what? That’s up the imagination.

Is it an insult? Is it a compliment? No one knows. Welcome to 2017 where nothing a millennial says makes sense anymore, and I am LIVING for it.

I personally take being called “extra” a compliment. In fact, I have made it my goal to be the Most Extra Ever. How will I accomplish this you might ask? Well the secret is, I already am!

In high school, everyone knows each other and you can be judged for almost anything. Living in fear based on how you dress, act, or exist, isn’t a fun feeling, and being “extra” probably isn’t a good thing.

Meanwhile, in college, you are free to be whoever you want to be and the more “out-there” you are, the more likely you are to have a good time.

I have taken the liberty to stop living my life in fear and start living as extra as possible, and from some help from me, you too can be extra as h*ck.

Step 1: Acquire Glitter

This is essential to having an amazing day. Wake up, sprinkle some glitter in your hair, pop some in the inner corner of your eyelids, and keep a handful in your pockets for emergency surprises, and Voila! you’re already leaps and bounds ahead of others. Not only are you extra as hell, it’s scientifically proven that you’re going to be 326% happier now that you’re adding a little sparkle to your step (and to those who trail behind you).

Step 2: Purchase a fur vest

I personally purchased my fur vest from the kid’s section in Target. Does that get me bonus points? Of course, it does! Even more bonus points? It’s pink. Now I’m not saying that you also need to purchase a ridiculously colored fur vest, but I am currently in the lead for being the most extra, so it’s up to you. With this fur vest, you will take the world by storm and look amazing while doing it.

Step 3: Delete your filter

Don’t let anyone or anything stop you from expressing yourself. Say what you want to say. Do what you want to do. Live life out loud, loud enough for those around you to stare and wonder why they aren’t as happy as you are. Be who YOU want to be, and do the most. The only way to be the most extra ever is to let loose and not let anything stand in your way.

With these three simple steps, you will be well on your way to being extra af. Of course, I couldn’t give away all my secrets, but hopefully these treat you well because they are the essentials. Don’t live your life in fear of judgement. Let everything out, because if your personality shines, you will open those around you and ultimately change the world. Just remember to never leave home without your glitter, and you’ll do just fine.



Diaries of an Emotionless Robot

Originally posted on April 14th, 2017 on Her Campus UCF.

People think of you as heartless. Friends don’t reach out to you for help due to your lack of empathy. You build up a shield, hiding from those around you, pretending nothing affects you. You label yourself as emotionless to ease the pain of others calling you it behind your back. You appear to not have feelings, but deep down inside, everything hurts.

As emo as that sounds, I am a generally positive person. I live an amazing life and look for the good in everything that happens to me. That being said, I’ve never been the best at expressing my emotions, good or bad, to those around me. No matter how excited I am about something, I will mostly likely have a straight face. My insides could be jumping for joy, but to any passerby, it looks like just another bland moment in a day to day setting.

Same goes with sorrow. Sad things happen all the time, but the phrase “I don’t cry”, has slipped through my lips one to many times. My friends and family around me have taken note and have passed me off as unappreciative, apathetic, and passive, when in reality I am the complete opposite.

When around people, I pass off emotions as unimportant and stay strong, no matter the situation. Yet this has given me a bad rep. Being labeled as emotionless is fun and games until people start to hurt you because they believe you don’t care anyway and it won’t affect you.

Well it does.

I am both emotionless and full of emotions, and I can flip the switch easily. When people are around, I put on this mask that hides everything deep down inside. Happy or sad. Exciting or upsetting. Surprising or demeaning. Nothing passes through that mask. It appears that nothing affects me. Yet everything does.

Every little thing that someone says or does affects me. So many positive and negative things occur every day, and when it appears that I’m not acknowledging them, I am deep deep down inside. The second I’m alone, I let it all out. I jump for joy over the compliment I received. I cry into my pillow over the rejection I face. I curse out my window to those who wronged me. I express more emotion than anyone could picture.

As soon as I’m alone, I am no longer the passive, straight faced robot that I appear to be. I let loose and let my emotions run. I even get emotional about my emotions. I’m your typical hormonal teenage mess, and I’m proud to admit it.

I’m still going to hide behind the mask of no emotions for a while, because right now it’s a safety net. It protects me from the harsh reality of judgement and fear. I wish I could shed it. I’m tired of being viewed as the girl who doesn’t care about anything, because I care more than the average bear. But for now, it remains. Keeping me closed off. Keeping my emotions in, until I’m ready to release them to the world.


Meeting Your Childhood Crush

Originally posted on April 10th, 2017 on Her Campus UCF.

The Jonas Brothers are playing on the radio. You’re on a three-way call with your besties obsessing over how your future husbands are going to dress in your wedding. You then walk over to your wall covered in tear out posters from Popstar and J-14 as you give said future husband a kiss on the cheek before falling into another daydream about actually meeting your celeb crushes in person.

Waking up eight years later, it’s finally the day you make your ten-year-old self proud. Overwhelmed with adrenaline and excitement, it’s the moment you’ve been waiting your whole life for. The day you finally meet your first celebrity crush.

Last week, I died and went to heaven as I met the man of my tween dreams, Joe Jonas. Yes, the Joe Jonas. Singer, actor, teen heartthrob, and former star of my daydreams. It was an out of body experience, the moment I found out that I would be meeting the members of DNCE. I couldn’t tell you the names of anyone else in the band because I was goo-goo eyed for Joe. He was my Jonas and he was REAL.

Our interaction was brief, but like I said, it killed me. It amazes me how we as humans put other humans on pedestals and worship their every move, but I’m not going to complain about being in the presence of a king.

I could barely contain my excitement, and I still an unable to comprehend the fact that it happened. Sure he might not be the most relevant person in my life now, but there was a time where everything I did revolved around the Jonas Brothers. The fact that I was lucky enough to meet one of them now makes me wish that I could have invited my 2009 self to come join in on the fun.

It meant a lot to me that I could meet such an amazing figure from my childhood. Someone I looked up to. Someone I idolized. Someone with such a huge name in our generation. It’s crazy how after years of not worrying about someone who made such an impact in my life, they can instantly be shot back into it and all the amazing memories followed.

Again, although our interaction was brief, it was monumental, and I only wish my ten-year-old self could have been there to experience it.


Fear of Returning Home for the Summer

Originally posted on April 4th, 2017 on Her Campus UCF.

I took a leap of faith this past year. I leaped nearly a thousand miles across the country and lived on my own for the first time. I leaped out of my comfort zone and into a sea of future oriented goals. I leaped into my future and away from my childhood. And I’ve kept on leaping ever since.

Living on your own is an incredible step that most kids our age choose to make. It involves being a decision maker, a planner, and organizer, and a doer in order to be successful. And most of the time, it makes for a successful lifestyle change.

College kids get to experience this freedom in short cycles in order to ease their way into their grown up life. August to December, January to May, and repeat. If you’re anything like me, those eight months are not enough to fuel your ambition to grow up. To me, they act as a tease at my future, only to be reset over winter break and summer.

This past winter break, I headed home for a month falling into the same old grind that I was used to in high school. I had to check in with my parents, eat meals during “normal” times, and spend hours in my room aimlessly surfing the internet. Winter break put me into a slump in which I no long had the opportunity to go out and experience everything I could at college. I wasn’t able to just show up at a friends place at four am to eat cookie dough, then leave. I wasn’t able to walk around campus and run into people when I got bored. I didn’t have the freedom to make whatever decision I please and not worry about checking in with my parents.

Winter break gave me a new perspective of my hometown and how fortunate we are to live steps away from our friends in college. The boredom I experienced over break was grueling, and I had to face a month of it in the arctic tundra of western Pennsylvannia.

And now as I flip my calendar over to April, the end of the semester is in sight. Everyone around me is counting down the days until they are free of responsibilities, but I’m dreading moving out and away from my freshman year memories. My dorm room, my friends, and my new home are all things that are going to quickly be swiped from me sooner than I know it. All I can think about is my winter break slump and how I’m about to experience it yet again, this time for three times as long.

Yet I know going into it with a negative attitude only makes things worse, so I have a month to plaster a smile on my face and get excited to go home. The warm weather will bring out the best in me and the memories i have to share with my high school friends will be priceless. As nervous as I am to go home, I know it might be my last time for a while so I must view it as a treat. It’s okay to be scared every once and a while, and my biggest fear is that of boredom. It’s time to close my eyes and leap state by state to the place I grew up. It’s time to leap into positive midset. I must leap into my original home sweet home.


Professional Packer, At Your Service

I feel like I have spent the past year packing, and it has become one of my least favorite past times. This time last year, I had to pack up my whole life to get it ready to ship down to Florida. As soon as I had everything unpacked and situated, I was repacking to come home this fall. Rinse and repeat for winter break, and again for spring break and summer. At this point, I should just live out of a suitcase for simplicity sake. And here we are again, getting ready to head back down to Florida, and my bedroom has turned into a collection unit for piles and piles of objects getting ready to find their new home.

Actually, I’d be lying if I said I was already prepping for my upcoming move. Honestly, my room’s just a mess, but that’s the perfect excuse for the chaotic state that it’s in right now. Yet as I approach my sixth packing adventure of the year, it might be easy to assume that I’m a pro by now. I wish it were that easy.

This time around, packing is a little bit harder. Although a majority of my belongings are already in Orlando, I need to fit everything I need in two checked bags and a carry on. What is everything? Beats me. That’s the hard part. I have zero clue as to when I’ll be home next, so wrapping my head around the items I might need for the next year or so is stressing me out. Oh, and I leave in 24 days.

Here’s to figuring it all out, and PRAYING that my suitcases don’t exceed the 50 lb weight limit. Fingers crossed!

Living Spontaneously

Originally posted on March 24th, 2017 on Her Campus UCF.

I’m a huge proponent of planning every detail of a day, week, trip, or lifetime. With planning, comes great responsibility, yet it’s an activity that calms my nerves and gets me excited and organized for what’s to come. It gives me time to look ahead and see what resources I need and I what I will have to accomplish in order to achieve said goal. Yet recently, I have been exposed to the complete opposite, which happens to be spontaneity.

The fear of the unknown has always held me back from doing things “for the hell” of it, yet starting about six months ago, I decided, to heck with it, and began living in a new way. Don’t get me wrong, I didn’t through my organization out the window, I just reevaluated and opened myself up to new adventures.

These spur of the moment decisions I have been making have been some of the most exciting and memorable ones to date. I’ve been able to live life in a new way and makes so many new friends throughout the process. I have been able to set up last minute vacations and travel to new destinations. I have been able to go to Disney world within an hour of the idea popping into my head. I have been able to change my look up with a short trip to the hairdresser instead of months of stressful planning.

Spontaneity has taken the stress out of dealing with time constraining activities. It allows you to make decisions on the spot, and follow through with them immediately. It eliminates the endless deliberating that eats away at your soul. It allows you to have unconditional fun in the moment. In every moment.

I love planning because it eliminates the consequences of things going wrong, but I have learned to love living my life spontaneously because not everything requires a heavy decision.

As long as one learns to live a life full of balance and happiness, they will live one of success.



DCP Bucket List

Hello my friends, it is finally July! Which means the greatest month of the year has finally arrived. No, I’m not biased because it’s my birthday month (okay, maybe a little), but July also means that I only have one month until I move back to Florida and start working for the mouse, and the excitement could not be more real!

As my check in date quickly approached, my mind has focused on one thing, and one thing only: Disney. In the midst of crafting gifts for my roommates, and binging DCP Vlogs on YouTube, I started coming up with things I want to experience and accomplish during my five months there. My situation’s a unique one, since I get to live in The City Beautiful all year round, so my bucket list isn’t quite like those I’ve come across thus far. Since obtaining my annual pass, I’ve been able to see and do some really cool things, so I want to specify things I have not yet tried.


Without further ado, here’s my finalized bucket list of things to experience and waste money on during my Fall 2017 Disney College Program.

  1. Keep track of every park, ride, or show I experience to tally up at the end
  2. Visit all four parks in one day
  3. Get a FastPass+ for every ride once
  4. Wait in line for every ride once (commit or quit, baby)
  5. Enter and leave each park with a smile
  6. Pick up shifts at all six parks, as well as Disney Springs
  7. Have a picnic in the hub grass (hub grass n chill?)
  8. Eat my way through EPCOT’s Food and Wine festival
  9. Celebrate a Very Merry Unbirthday with all of my roommates
  10. Attended both the Halloween and Christmas parties as a guest, and an employee
  11. Do a photo-shoot in every park (it’s me, remember?)
  12. Face my fear of birds at Animal Kingdom
  13. Stay-cation!
  14. Take a tour
  15. Have as many characters as possible sign a canvas for my bedroom
  16. Disneyland (maybe, possibly, I don’t know)
  17. Get paid to watch Star Wars a Galactic Spectacular fireworks at least once
  18. Visit the Tupperware Museum
  19. VoluntEAR at Orlando Pride and Give Kids the World
  20. Take a class and network the heck out of my time there
  21. Step outside of my comfort zone
  22. Make as many magical moments as possible
  23. Sneak up on all my roommates at work
  24. VLOG my entire adventure! (which you can keep up with here)

I know, I know, it’s a pretty hefty list, but living ten minutes from the magic will allow me the exposure to many memorable experiences. Here’s to hoping I even complete half the items on the list while I am there! I guess we will check back in January to see the progress made to determine if I am the true Queen of Disney World.

Until next time,


Once the Happiest Place on Earth, Always the Happiest Place on Earth

Originally posted on March 8th, 2017 on Her Campus UCF.

I was recently asked by my dad if the magic ever goes away for me. As an annual pass holder for the Walt Disney World resort, it’s easy to believe that weekly trips to the parks could minimize how special this place is to my heart. Yet this question really made me think. How could the most magical place on earth ever lose value? Does the magic go away as you get older? Will there ever be a day that I enter the park without a smile on my face?

The answer is no. Disney is more than just a vacation destination for me. Disney is my happy place, where I can be free to express myself and my love for all things whimsical. Am I a kid at heart? No, not really. Yet when I enter the gates, all my worries go away.

As arguably the most popular tourist destination in the world, most everyone has had their favorite memory that they can reflect on from one of their trips to the house of mouse. Families will shell out thousands of dollars after years of saving up in order to experience this glorified amusement park, and continue to repeat this cycle year after year. What makes this park so special that it keeps bringing guests back even after they have done everything?

The memories, the laughter, the escape from reality. All the most popular reasons guests give for returning to this magical place. The Disney company prides itself on exemplary guest service that sparks interest for guests to come back year after year. There’s just something magical about walking under the train station on Main Street USA and getting the first glimpse of Cinderella’s Castle whether it’s your first time there or your hundred and first time.

As you walk through all the lands, you become part of the story as you interact with your favorite characters and explore their reality. It becomes your reality for a moment and you share a bond with those surrounding you. Each ride you step foot on transports you to your favorite world as you are blown away with magic involved in making these dreams a reality. Every step you take brings you closer to a new adventure, and not a day goes by without a huge smile plastered across your face.

That’s what’s so special about this kingdom. No matter how many times I ride Space Mountain, I will always walk off excited to ride it again. No matter how many Mickey ice cream bars I ate, I will never get sick of the chocolate coated vanilla ice cream on a stick. No matter how many times I meet Goofy, I will never fail to run into his arms for the biggest embrace in the world. No matter how many times I watch the fireworks, I will never fail to belt out “WISHES!” at the top of my lungs. There’s something there that makes every experience a magical moment.

Yes, pass holders and cast members get the luxury of being able to go to the parks on a daily basis, but does the repetitiveness minimize the magic? Not in the slightest. I am extremely fortunate to be able to spend so much time in such a magical place, and I hope someday to be able to be part of the magical team responsible for making this place so inviting. Walt didn’t just create a vacation destination, he created a home. And to all who come to this happy place, welcome!


How to Deal With the Haters

Originally Posted on February 17th, 2017 on Her Campus UCF.

One of the greatest things about living on a planet with seven billion people on it, is that there are seven billion personalities out there. With so many people to interact with, it’s amazing how many connections can be made. That being said, there are many circumstances where personalities clash, leading to a less than ideal situation. We all know that drama is the least popular dessert at the party, but why do we continue to let it into our lives?

I’ve noticed a trend in petty fights and dramatic people, and it’s no secret that dealing with it involves lots of uninvited stress. It’s increasingly unfortunate when drama is created because two personalities just don’t mesh well together. Fights break out over nothing more than the fact that there was a loss of connection, leaving both parties pointing their fingers at each other. We’ve all been in these situations and we’ve all experienced haters during all the checkpoints of our life, but what can we do to fix it?

The first step to dealing with a hater is realizing that you didn’t do anything wrong. It’s not your fault that they don’t like your sense of humor, backwards compliments, and extra behavior. If you’re a people pleaser, it might be hardtop restrain from correcting yourself to make them happy, but that is not the healthy solution. If this situation occurs, it’s best to just slowly avoid them to skip unnecessary conflict.

The second step is to ignore the drama. It’s easy these days to get wrapped up in what others are saying about you, but be the bigger person and stand above the rest. Resist the urge to subtweet. Refrain from texting them big long paragraphs. Ignore and stand strong. If you are being targeted in one of the aforementioned forms of mockery, keep your chin up and keep scrolling. Don’t give them the satisfaction that they crave by firing back.

The third step is to learn to move past it. If someone puts so much effort into hating you, you don’t deserve to have them in your life. Take it as a form of flattery that they are spending all their time talking about you and don’t dwell on the past. A lot of times, haters are ex-best friends so it might seem like an impossible task, but moving forward is the most crucial step.

If communicating isn’t an option, don’t sweat the small stuff, or the small people who think they are making a statement by dropping you. Some people thrive off of drama and create it wherever they see necessary. If you’re ever in a situation where someone is mad at you for no apparent reason, think long and hard about how much you value that friendship and make the appropriate moves forward to make things good for yourself. The great thing about living on a planet with seven billion people on it is that you’re destined to find people who love you for who you are.